Power Struggles and Struggling with Power

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A man in a suit and cape is standing next to his shadow.

Author: Jesse Adams, MSc, President and Founder of Ember Experience  

Over the last year, I have noticed an interesting tension and unease arising in the leadership journey for many of my clients. The last several years have brought disruption, questions around privilege and identity, and challenged responsibilities for leadership and workplaces, all while facing severe strain (physically, emotionally, mentally, and culturally). At the root of this discomfort is the controversial topic of power. The question many are grappling with internally is some variation of “How do we lean into our power without asserting it over someone else?”.

Power has many forms; the “big three” that often come up in my conversations are:  

  • Privilege or advantage-based power
          - We may power hold based on various demographic, lifestyle or cultural factors (e.g. gender, race, religious ideals etc.) 
  • Positional or decision-making power
          - A result of our function in the organization (e.g., manager vs. staff, VP vs. manager).  
  • Expertise power
          - Perception that our education, credentials or lived experience may mean we “know” more” about a subject then another person.  

Let's focus on “positional power” because this one seems to be top of mind for folks in leadership positions to juggle and understand. 

These insights are presented to act as a guide or a mirror in helping you reflect on your leadership journey.

#1: Something that may be small in the moment can create big impacts down the line  

Leadership decisions, actions, or conversations with staff will usually result in a ripple effect through our people and the organization. By the very nature of the role, our words/choices/actions carry weight. The impacts can be very positive. Small actions like a thank you, recognizing staff contribution, or taking the time to listen to an employee’s concerns have a tremendous positive impact on staff empowerment, engagement, and motivation. However, the opposite is also true. These same small words/choices/actions can create chaos within an organization. I have seen multiple times where organizational priorities change, time is ineffectively used through constant rework, resources are wasted, or an increase in staff frustration, burnout and miscommunication. This is particularly true when expectations or the conditions of the meeting are not clearly set. In these situations, it’s common for staff to feel frustrated, confused, dismissed or unimportant.  

Insight #2: Ignoring the realities of power doesn’t equate to humility or strong leadership  

This insight is best illustrated with a personal example. I am someone who wants to always be supportive and walk beside the person I am interacting with, meaning I show up to interactions striving to be vulnerable, understand their experience and connect to the whole person. The last thing I want is to create a feeling that I am above someone, seeking to control them, or that I am better than the other person. In this pursuit, I have avoided and sometimes suppressed the reality of being the leader or “boss” of the organization. I end up approaching all leadership situations in a style that would be passive vs. assertive, or suggestive vs. directive as I thought it was “bad” to use these styles.  To read the full story click here.

Insight #3 Exploring the dimensions of power is empowering

We all hold power. Power is very contextual and can change depending on the environment. However, working to better understand different types of power we may hold, and the blind spots it creates, influencing our thinking and behaviours is a critical step to owning and focusing on it with intention.  

A few resources I have used to explore this paradigm are:  

Insight #4 Having compassion for yourself, and take responsibility is stepping into your personal power

The process for change will not be linear, it will be uncomfortable, and we will make mistakes. Although we can hold high expectations of ourselves, we need to remember we are human. Being a human is hard, and we will regularly experience unexpected obstacles, barriers, or challenges along our journey. Taking a moment to consider the context of why we did what we did and the factors that may have added to what we did, can help prevent us from spiralling in shame and open our willingness and own our role, take responsibility for what we can control, and act going forward.

Insight #5 Asking for help is a sign of strength

As humans, social connection is imprinted on our DNA. It is an integral part of our existence, survival, and ability to thrive. As leaders, there is an added pressure of “knowing the right thing to do.” Almost as if we inherit a title and all the knowledge and skills that are required to fulfill that role.  As much as we may think we can do it alone, at minimum it is not optimal, and at most we can’t. Seeking help, from a trusted peer, coach, or mentor, or inviting your staff into the reality that you are human too, will increase our capacity to change, reframe our perspectives, foster greater accountability, and enable us to fail more gracefully and productively.   

Honouring and respecting your power is about accepting responsibility for the wake and impact is has/leads to. As popularized in Spiderman “with great power comes great responsibility". Learning to lean in responsibly and using your power to empower others is the work all leaders need to do and explore.  our leadership journey. 



The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.


The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.



By Jessica Jaithoo August 21, 2026
Each year on August 26th, Women’s Equality Day offers an opportunity to reflect on progress toward gender equity while recognizing the work that remains. While legislative milestones have helped create a more equitable foundation, the lived experiences of women in today’s workplaces tell a more nuanced story. To explore this further, we invited a group of women leaders to share their perspectives on equality in practice, the barriers that persist, and the actions needed to drive meaningful change. Their responses highlight both the progress made and the opportunities ahead. Contributors: Chelsea Harper, Director of Human Resources, Stoppler Hughes Christine Dagenais, Founder and CEO, Bright Wire Leadership Development Connie De Ciancio, Chief Commercial Officer, Strathcona Resources Michelle Dulmadge, Executive Vice President Human Resources, Surerus Murphy Rosy Makkar-Sethi, Portfolio Head of HR, Volaris Group Sabrina Brock, Vice President Human Resources, TriSummit Utilities Inc. To guide the discussion, we asked each contributor to reflect on three questions: What does women’s equality truly mean to you in today’s professional or leadership context, beyond formal policies or stated commitments? From your experience, what structural or cultural barrier continues to limit women’s advancement, and where do you see the greatest opportunity for progress? What is one action by leaders or organizations that can meaningfully advance women’s equality, and why does it matter now? Across responses, women’s equality was described not just as a policy outcome, but as a lived experience of fairness, recognition, and opportunity. As Chelsea shared: “It requires acknowledging that women have historically been conditioned differently in the workplace and society. The goal is to build workplaces where women are valued, compensated, and developed equitably enough that gender eventually becomes irrelevant to the conversation.” Connie emphasized fairness in assessment: “It is when people are genuinely assessed on their capability, judgment, performance, and leadership potential, not on assumptions or labels. It is not about lowering the bar or advancing someone because of gender; it is about making sure the best person has a fair opportunity to step forward and be recognized.” Sabrina reflected: “It is the experience of truly feeling valued for who you are as a professional and as a leader, where gender is not a topic of conversation. It also means being surrounded by more women in senior leadership roles due to equal access to stretch roles, equivalent tolerance for risk-taking, and performance judged by the same standards.” Despite progress for women in the workplace, certain barriers remain and are often invisible to those who have not experienced it. Chelsea reinforces the deeper context behind these challenges: “A true commitment to women’s equality requires acknowledging that history and understanding how deeply it still impacts confidence, negotiation, leadership presence, and career progression today.” Rosy names it directly: “A persistent barrier I continue to see is the reliance on subjective notions of leadership potential, often shaped by familiarity and unconscious bias. In my experience, this disproportionately impacts women, and even more so women of colour, whose strengths and leadership styles may not align with the traditional model. I have seen how this can limit access to opportunity despite clear capability and performance.” Subjectivity, when left unchecked, defaults to familiarity. Familiarity tends to favour the dominant group even when it is not intentional. This habit will continue to be consequential in the workplace. Sabrina offers a common example of how this bias shows up in practice: “If the behaviour is assertiveness, men may be seen as strong, confident, decisive leaders; however, when a woman behaves that way, they may be seen as aggressive, difficult, or abrasive.” The good news: Michelle calls for organizational accountability. “When equity is treated as a business discipline, not just a values statement, it becomes measurable and sustainable.” Christine adds the human dimension: “Real progress happens when women stop waiting for permission and start taking their seat at the table and when men in leadership actively sponsor and advocate for women, not simply as a diversity initiative, but because it strengthens teams and organizations.” Together, they point to the same truth: meaningful advancement requires both systemic intention and individual confidence. These examples are not seeking for exception, but consistency. Women want to be seen clearly, assessed fairly, and given the same opportunities to rise, or stumble, that their peers receive without having to ask. Building on this, one theme emerged clearly in how contributors see progress taking shape: the importance of sponsorship. Respondents highlighted the impact of leaders actively advocating for capable colleagues - particularly those who may not yet recognize their own potential or have had opportunities to demonstrate it. Rosy emphasizes the role of leadership influence, noting that “When leaders use their influence to advocate for women in succession discussions, critical assignments, and promotion decisions, opportunities for women increase significantly”. Similarly, Michelle reflects on the tangible impact of sponsorship in practice: “In my career, the moments that accelerated growth were when a leader put my name forward for something I had not yet been given the chance to prove at scale. Those decisions build confidence, capability, and visibility in ways that formal development programs cannot”. The urgency of this approach is reinforced by Connie, who notes, “This matters now because organizations need the strongest possible leaders, and they cannot afford to overlook capable people who may simply need a push to step up.” Christine expands on this broader organizational impact, stating “The leaders who understand this do not see equality as a favour or a quota. They recognize, as research continues to show, that advancing women’s equality is a strategic advantage. And importantly, they understand that creating greater equality is not a zero-sum game. When women rise, organizations, teams, and communities benefit alongside them.” Collectively, these perspectives highlight key actions: sponsorship, creating meaningful opportunities for growth, and encouraging individuals to recognize and step into their potential. Advancing women’s equality requires intention, advocacy, and action - turning insight into impact by championing talent and ensuring no potential goes overlooked.
By Jessica Jaithoo August 19, 2026
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None requires a management title. HR can help organizations look at development as not only as courses people attend, but as experiences people need. That may mean encouraging managers to distribute meaningful opportunities rather than repeatedly turning to the person who is already proven. It may mean designing project work so different employees have opportunities to lead. It may mean making mentoring, coaching or job-shadowing available before someone enters a formal leadership pipeline. The objective is not to make everyone a manager. It is to give more people opportunities to build capabilities that will serve them whether or not formal leadership is their eventual destination. Make room to learn from experience Experience alone does not necessarily create development. Two people can go through similar experiences and take very different things from them. What often makes the difference is the opportunity to reflect: What worked? What didn't? What did I notice about myself? What would I do differently next time? HR can help make those conversations part of development rather than leaving them to chance. A manager checking in after a difficult project can ask more than, “Did we deliver?” A mentor can help someone examine why a conversation went differently than expected. A performance discussion can explore not only what someone accomplished, but how they influenced others, exercised judgment or responded when things became uncertain. These are relatively small interventions. But they help turn experience into learning. Notice leadership before it becomes obvious There is another role for HR: helping organizations broaden what they notice. Potential does not always announce itself loudly. The person who volunteers to coordinate a complicated piece of work may be demonstrating leadership capacity. So might the employee who brings people together when a team is stuck, asks the question no one else is asking, helps a colleague succeed without needing credit, or remains thoughtful when everyone else is rushing toward an answer. If we look for leadership potential only among those who already resemble our current leaders, we may keep finding the same kinds of people.  Creating broader opportunities allows capability to become visible before we decide who has it. Pay attention to what the organization teaches Organizations are also developing future leaders when they are not deliberately trying to. Employees notice who gets promoted. They notice what behaviour gets rewarded, whose ideas receive attention and what happens when someone makes a mistake. They notice whether managers share information or protect it, whether difficult conversations are avoided or handled respectfully, and whether asking for help is treated as good judgment or weakness. These observations become lessons about what leadership looks like here. HR influences many of the systems through which those lessons are reinforced e.g., performance management, recognition, development, succession planning and promotion among them. That makes an important question worth asking: What are our people learning about leadership from the way our organization actually works? The answer may tell us as much about our leadership pipeline as any competency framework. Before the title Leadership development does not have to begin with a leadership program. It can begin when someone is trusted with something slightly beyond what they have done before and supported while they figure it out. It can happen when a manager shares the reasoning behind a difficult decision rather than only communicating the outcome. It can happen when someone gets to lead a project before they have people reporting to them. And it can happen when an employee has someone who helps them make sense of an experience rather than simply move on to the next task. HR cannot manufacture leaders. But HR can help create workplaces where people have opportunities to practise judgment, responsibility, influence and reflection long before a title makes those things part of their job description. Perhaps the question is not only “Who are our future leaders?” It is also: “What are we doing today that gives future leadership capacity a chance to emerge?”
By Marina Perkovic July 22, 2026
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