Why Soft Skills are Hard

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Author:  Shawn Bakker

During a recent webinar, I asked participants to share words that describe the best and worst leader that they ever worked with. Here were the most frequent responses:

What words would you use to describe the BEST leader?

  • Authentic
  • Empowering
  • Encouraging
  • Good listener
  • Invested in others
  • Supportive
  • Visionary

What words would you use to describe the WORST leader?

  • Autocratic and controlling
  • Critical
  • Micromanager
  • Narrow-minded
  • Poor communicator
  • Self-centered

The vast majority of the words relate to soft skills – the character traits and interpersonal skills that influence how a person works with and relates to others. When people think of the best leaders they have worked for, they begin listing soft skills. For the worst leaders, we get descriptions of people lacking soft skills. Technical capabilities and knowledge are rarely mentioned when I take people through this exercise.

This doesn’t mean that “hard-skills” are not important. Technical knowledge and skills are base requirements to be successful at work. Yet in most roles, true effectiveness comes from being able to work effectively with others. This is reflected in the competency models of most professions. Even a quick review of the CPHR General Competencies shows that out of the twelve competencies, 8 are soft skills, and only 4 are technical/knowledge skills. 1

To become better at whatever you do, developing your soft skills is critical. If missed, you are not paying attention to the majority of the competencies necessary for success. If you focus solely on developing your business acumen, data analysis and systems thinking, you are missing a large part of what is required for you to be effective.

For the professionals running learning and development programs in organizations - if you want to get the best bang for your development buck, make sure that you invest a significant portion of your efforts into employees’ soft skills, but also recognize that this isn’t always easy. This takes time, practice and focused effort. Soft skills are hard because they are exercised in nuanced ways. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to applying interpersonal competencies. They need to be utilized and adapted to the needs of the situation and the individuals involved.

Research based on groups of leaders shows that the need for developing interpersonal skills is ongoing. A review of our 360 assessment data from the last 3 years shows that the lack of soft skills remains a challenge for many. The lowest-rated behaviors for leaders over that time were:
 
  • Coaching and developing others
  • Empowering employees
  • Mobilizing others around a clear purpose
  • Seeking innovation
  • Displaying flexibility
 
Here are some tips on developing these capabilities:
 
Step One: Seek out feedback – from people you trust, coaches, or assessment tools – make sure you find out what skills you should be developing.
 
Step Two: Prioritize – work on what matters most; don’t try to master too many areas at once.
 
Step Three: Devote two-thirds of your development activities to soft skills.
 
Step Four: Anticipate challenges – soft skills take time to acquire, and it means you will make some mistakes along the way. In my work people have been much more forgiving of someone who tries and makes an error, than someone who doesn’t try at all!
 

 

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About the Author: Shawn Bakker is a registered Psychologist and leads the Professional Services team at Psychometrics Canada. He works with organizations and OD/HR professionals to assess and develop the potential that people bring to the workplace as individual contributors, team members and leaders.
 
Contact Information: 
 
● Website: www.psychometrics.com
● Facebook: @PsychometricsCanada
● Twitter: @PsychometricsCA
 
Psychometrics Canada has been providing assessment tools and strategic guidance for the selection and development of individuals and teams since 1976, with an expertise in applying business psychology in the areas of employee selection, personal and leadership development, and team building and conflict resolution. Psychometrics Canada is the only authorized Canadian distributor of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®), Strong Interest Inventory® (SII®), Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI), FIRO-B®, CPI 260™, CPI™ 434, Work Personality Index®, and Career Values Scale instruments.

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The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.

 

The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.



An Update from your Board of Directors – November 2025

By Jessica Jaithoo • December 4, 2025
As the governing voice of CPHR Alberta, the Board of Directors meets quarterly to provide oversight and guidance in several key areas. The Board, alongside CPHR Alberta operations, continues to deliver on the association's strategic priorities developed in the 2020 strategic plan. To ensure transparency between our Board of Directors, members and key stakeholders, we are sharing post-meeting messages to inform the steps taken towards advancing our profession and ensuring a financially stable association. The Board of Directors met on November 27, 2025, and is proud to share the strong momentum we are experiencing across our community. The Board’s key messages are as follows: Membership Growth As of September 30, 2025, we reached 7,213 active members, a 7% year-over-year increase, with the majority coming from student and emerging HR professionals. This growth affirms the momentum of our HR profession and the impact of our student engagement initiatives. Professional Development Member participation remains strong with 53 events held year-to-date, with 5,013 attendees across workshops, roundtables, webinars, and community sessions. Our complimentary events have played a key role in sustaining engagement and access to learning. Annual Conference The Annual Conference was a heavy focus for the association in Q3. The sold-out event continues to bring together our community for valuable professional development and networking opportunities, creating a strong foundation for 2026. Attendees reported high satisfaction, with over 370 in attendance, and a sold-out exhibitor hall. “The CPHR conference was incredibly educational and inspiring. The speakers motivated me, and it was an experience I’ll never forget. I really enjoyed it, grew closer to my team, and I definitely want to attend again.” – 2025 Conference Attendee The 2026 event will be held at the BMO Centre, in Calgary on June 2 and 3 – with increased capacity, expanded exhibitor space, and enhanced programming will elevate the experience for all HR professionals across Alberta, NWT and Nunavut. Self-Regulation The Board continues to assess the implications of Alberta’s Professional Governance Act (PGA), including: Advocacy, legal, and governance impact assessments are being commissioned. Preliminary recommendations from management will be brought to the Board in March and June 2026, leading to a formal decision. Further information will be shared, when ready.  Future Vision Approved: 2026-2028 Strategic Plan Our new 2026–2028 Strategic Plan will be rolled out in December to all members. The 3-year Strategic Plan, crafted from member feedback, market research, and collaboration with CPHR Canada – aims to strengthen our profession’s influence, amplifies leadership, and creates pathways for all members to thrive. Fiscal Responsibility Our Q3 financial review remains on track for a balanced year-end forecast. The 2026 draft budget has been approved – aligning resources with our strategic priorities while maintaining a disciplined and responsible financial approach. Board Governance Our board continues to focus on good governance practice, ensure stability, clarity, and accountability across our organization. FCPHR Nominations A reminder that the prestigious Fellowship Award is open for nominations! This national program recognizes Chartered Professionals in Human Resources (CPHRs) who have made exemplary contributions to the HR profession. Recipients are granted recognition as a Fellow of the Chartered Professionals in Human Resources (FCPHR). Click here to learn more about the Fellowship Award, including the guidelines and completing your nomination. You can also download a copy of the nomination form here. The next Board meeting takes place in March 2026, after which we will again share our key messages. If you have any questions regarding these key messages or the Board of Directors, please contact chair@cphrab.ca . We welcome your feedback!

Charting the Future of HR: CPHR Alberta’s 2026-2028 Strategic Plan

By Jessica Jaithoo • December 2, 2025
At CPHR Alberta, we believe that the future of work is being shaped by the decisions we make today. That’s why we’re proud to share our 2026-2028 Strategic Plan—a bold, member-informed roadmap that will guide our organization over the next three years. This plan is the result of a deeply collaborative process, led by our Board of Directors and developed in partnership with our operations team. It reflects the voices of our members, gathered through surveys and conversations, and is grounded in market research and aligned with the national priorities of CPHR Canada. Together, we’ve crafted a strategy that is responsive, forward-looking, and rooted in data. At its core, the plan is about strengthening the Human Resources profession and supporting the people who drive it. It reaffirms our commitment to building a resilient, inclusive HR community—one that is equipped to lead in a rapidly evolving workplace landscape. Our redefined vision and mission statements speak to this ambition, and our newly articulated values provide a foundation for how we work, connect, and grow. The strategic priorities outlined in the plan reflect the areas where we believe CPHR Alberta can make the greatest impact. They focus on elevating the visibility and influence of the HR profession, fostering innovation and leadership across our community, and deepening engagement with our members and partners. These priorities are designed to meet the diverse needs of our jurisdiction, from urban centers to rural communities, and to ensure that every CPHR has the tools and support to thrive. As we look ahead, we’re energized by the possibilities this plan unlocks. It’s a call to action—for our team, our Board, and our members—to work together in shaping the future of HR. Whether it’s through new learning opportunities, stronger regional connections, or amplifying the voice of HR in public discourse, we’re committed to leading with purpose and impact. We invite you to explore the full 2026-2028 Strategic Plan and see how our shared vision will come to life. Together, we’re building a future-ready HR community—one that’s connected, influential, and prepared to meet the challenges of tomorrow.

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