Using a Mediators Toolbox to Undertake Successful DEI Conversations
Author : Michelle Phaneuf, P.Eng., ACC, C.Med (she/her) of Workplace Fairness West
Facilitating diversity, equity and inclusion (DE&I) conversations in the workplace is important when we are focusing on creating a more inclusive and equitable environment and fostering belonging. Like DE&I training, this often falls on the HR professional to undertake. DEI training can build a foundation for stepping into these more in-depth conversations to build understanding and connect with others.
The easiest way for a person to connect with someone else from another walk of life is for them to hear about their experiences. Conversations humanize us. When we can empathize with someone’s situation, we are able to connect on a much deeper level. We recognize that training is not always the best platform to create empathy. That comes when others hear real stories from people they know. To practice diversity, equity and inclusion, it is key that teams understand the people within their organizations that live, look, and act differently from them. For a diverse workforce to feel included and heard, facilitating conversations that cultivate understanding is important.
As mediators, we undertake difficult conversations to raise awareness and build understanding every day. There are a few best practices that I can share for getting the most out of these dialogues and create a positive environment for people to express their opinions. Here are some principles that we follow to foster success.
- Prepare for the conversation.
a. Ensure you have a strong understanding of DEI issues yourself regardless of your race or ethnicity. Educate yourself first. Plan for how you will respond if the conversation gets difficult (see number 4 below).
b. Facilitating conversations on issues involving DEI requires foresight and planning. It's important to go into these conversations with an understanding of what you want to accomplish and how you want to accomplish it. Set and share clear goals and objectives of the conversation with the group ahead of time. Are you aiming to build understanding, raise awareness, address specific issues, or create an action plan? Clear objectives will help guide the conversation. - In the Room:
a. Be clear about the purpose/intention of the conversation.
b. Give enough time for the conversation – even more than what you think is reasonable.
c. Set guidelines – Here are some I use:
Come with a positive intention
Be curious
Be kind
Listen actively
Speak from the "I" perspective
Lean into discomfort
Be open, avoid judgement, blame, advice or correction
Assume positive intent of others
Be direct and transparent
Honor confidentiality
Monitor your own participation and others
Speak one at a time
Monitor your tone and body language
d. Talk about confidentiality – we can leave the stories in the room and take the learning back to others.
e. Share how this conversation may impact BIPOC people differently than others. Ask what everyone needs for this to be a safe space.
f. If you are not BIPOC yourself, acknowledge this, your privilege, and your lack of perspective on these issues. - Focus on Building Understanding:
a. Start with Awareness: Begin with conversations about awareness and understanding. Encourage participants to share their personal experiences, perspectives, and challenges related to diversity and inclusion.b. Focusing on values helps to build understanding. Use words that represent the values in what you are hearing. For example, fairness, respect, support, appreciation, valued.c. Ask for other perspectives or share other viewpoints if the conversation becomes one-sided.d. As a facilitator, your role is to listen actively to all participants, validate their feelings and experiences, and ensure that everyone has an opportunity to speak without interruption or judgment.e. Ensure everyone in the room has a voice and a choice in how they want to participate (speaking, written sticky notes). Starting discussions in pairs and shifting to smaller group discussions before you share back in a larger group will create more safety.f. Paraphrase or summarize the conversation at various intervals to ensure the meaning is clear. - If discussions become heightened:a. Acknowledge the emotion that you hear from the speaker or feel in the room. For example - It sounds like you are very angry about your experience.b. Ask open questions to de-escalate debate. For example - What is coming up for you when you are saying/hear that? What’s important to you about that?c. Reframe to the positive when you hear someone share something negative. For example - I don’t like it when others treat me as a second-class citizen– reframe: You want to be treated fairly by others.
Other Tips
- Set the tone by sharing your own stories if applicable.
- Recognize when someone has shared something difficult.
- Find opportunities to highlight similarities between groups.
Remember that diversity and inclusion conversations should be ongoing and integrated into the workplace culture. By facilitating these discussions thoughtfully and proactively, you can contribute to a more inclusive and equitable work environment. The path to a diverse and inclusive workplace is paved by understanding and empathy. While people within certain groups may not be able to directly relate to others, having an understanding of their experiences and mindset can provide the insight they need that leads to empathy and understanding. Ultimately, these traits help to create a more diverse, equitable , and inclusive workplace where people from all walks of life can feel they belong.
Join our upcoming Professional Development Session to learn more from Michelle on this topic:
HR Mediation – A Crucial Skill for the Successful Professional
When
: Tuesday, January 30, 2024 at 8:30 am to 4:30 pm
Cost
: Member $349 + GST | Non-member $399 + GST | Student Member $75 + GST
Venue
: CPHR Alberta Calgary Office - Gateway Room
Learn more here.
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The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.
Author: Robin O’Grady Wellbeing can feel impossible when life is already overflowing. The thought of adding “one more thing” to your plate? That’s enough to send anyone over the edge. However, in the end, taking care of your own health is not a “nice to have”, it is essential, in more ways than one. As an HR Professional you are often the go-to for tough conversations and as a support system. Protecting your own energy isn’t only about your personal wellbeing, it is what allows you to show up fully for your people, when it matters most. To get it out of the way, here are the things this is NOT about: Going to the gym Hopping on a trend (wellness/fitness/nutrition) Adding more things to your calendar What it will be about is… Refuel, Recharge, Repeat . Leading yourself with intention and energy. Perspective Shift Keep it simple. Thriving over surviving. When in the tornado of your day-to-day adding things to you r calendar can feel overwhelming and unattainable. The first step is to take stock of your capacity, really step back and assess what you might have available timewise. Then, assess how full your fuel tank is, how are your energy levels at different times of the day? Only then can the strategy be built on how to implement what is right for you. To begin, choose only one thing, many struggle because they try to do too much at once. Tips If choosing nutrition as a needed change, consider adding or removing only one thing as a beginning VS changing your entire diet or diving into a trend-based program that you know isn’t sustainable. Movement comes in a large variety of ways. Think about things you actually enjoy doing and find ways to add them instead of forcing yourself to do things you don’t enjoy just for the sake of adding more movement. Fulfillment is an important part of taking care of your holistic health, prioritize time for things you love – hobbies/family/travel etc. Energy Management The oxygen mask principle is a familiar one. When flying on an airplane, the flight attendant tells us that in the case of emergency, you must put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. This is where the protection and management of your energy begins. Awareness of what energizes you VS what drains you and an intentional placement of those things through your day as one step. Another, in protecting your calendar and being diligent about the spaces you had set aside for your energy management (eg. specific closed door office hours or break times). Tips Take your breaks away from your desk, even away from the building when possible. Implement grounding practices through your day, for example, before entering the workspace and at the end of your day before going home. Protect your transition time - 15 minutes between meetings to process and reset. Intentional Adaptation Making a decision that something might need to change is really the first step, without that awareness, there is little that can or will be done. As a leader, your responsibility is to yourself, but it is also in role modelling for the team. HR Professionals set the tone for the workplace culture around them. The way you prioritize your own boundaries and wellbeing quietly gives others permission to do the same. When you show up with intention, it ripples through the entire organization. The research and stats are clearer now than ever before, workplace wellbeing as a strategy, is one that increases the bottom line and enhances the overall culture of your workplace. In order to see the high end of those stats, intentional adaptation is key. This is a strategy and a process, one that will make you and your business better, you could be the catalyst for that. Tips Create a community within the workplace to prioritize these habits and strategies with. Make it a fun practice you can all do together and hold each other accountable to, especially when the day takes over and the “tornado” is most fierce. Build out the process and SOP in the same way you would for other business strategy and involve your team in the process, so you know what you are planning is good for the whole. Make sure you are first. Leaders first. Remember the oxygen mask principle, you deserve whole health, and you will thank yourself later for checking in and adjusting when needed. Start with some space to breathe. That space? It comes from letting go of what you think you "should" be doing and tuning into what actually serves you and your team. Wellbeing isn't a one-size-fits-all prescription. It's a personal practice of alignment, which can (and should) be translated into how you all work as a whole. Today is as good as any, tomorrow will come regardless.
As we close out 2025, I’m feeling genuinely proud of what CPHR Alberta has accomplished this year, and grateful for the members, volunteers, partners, and staff who made it possible. Together, we’ve continued to strengthen the value of the CPHR designation, expanded professional development opportunities, and deepened relationships with government, post-secondary institutions, and business leaders. This year also brought some milestones worth celebrating. We’re ending 2025 in a financially stable position, and our membership grew by 7% , which is a nice reminder that the HR community is thriving, and that we are still the kind of people others willingly choose to join. One of the most important pieces of work this year was launching our 2026–2028 Strategic Plan. This roadmap was shaped by member input, market research, and alignment with CPHR Canada’s national priorities. It’s the product of a truly collaborative process led by our Board and operations team, forward-looking, grounded in data, and practical in how it positions us for what’s next. At its core, the plan strengthens the HR profession and supports the people who drive it, reinforcing our commitment to a resilient and inclusive HR community. I encourage you to read it and see where we’re headed. View the Strategic Plan here. Our pursuit of self-regulation remains a priority, and our advocacy efforts this year continued to deepen relationships with government and position HR as a trusted profession. We’re making progress, ensuring HR’s voice is present in key policy conversations and recognized where it matters most. If nothing else, we are getting very good at showing up, staying thoughtful, and keeping the conversation moving forward. To build on this momentum, we’re currently recruiting two Chartered Members and up to one Public Members to join our Board. We’re looking for candidates with prior governance experience and strengths in areas such as strategic business leadership, financial management, legal expertise, or IDEA. It’s also important to us to have meaningful geographic representation from outside Calgary and Edmonton, because Alberta is bigger than two postal codes, and our Board should reflect that. You can learn more about the process and requirements through our blog , and I’d encourage you to apply or share the opportunity with someone who’d be a great fit. Applications close January 9, 2026. Chartered and Retired Members: Apply through your member portal Public Members: Contact Heather McMaster at hmcmaster@cphrab.ca for application details As the holiday season approaches, I hope you find time to rest, recharge, and take a moment to acknowledge what you’ve contributed this year, professionally and personally. Thank you for everything you do to advance the HR profession. I’m confident that, together, we’ll continue building something even stronger in 2026. And if your out-of-office message is already drafted, I respect the efficiency. Geordie MacPherson, CEC, CPHR, SHRM-SCP Chair, Board of Directors, CPHR Alberta
As we close out 2025, I am proud to reflect on the incredible work our association has accomplished this year. With the support of CPHR Canada, we continue to strengthen a national network of over 33,000 HR practitioners and professionals, including more than 7,300 in Alberta. Our collaboration with provincial counterparts, post-secondary institutions, local chambers, and government partners remains central to promoting the value of hiring a designated professional and advancing consistent standards across Canada. This year, CPHR Alberta grew by 7%, with the majority of new members coming from students and emerging HR professionals—the future of our profession. Thank you to all our members for the work you do every day to elevate the profession. Operationally, 2025 was a year of engagement and impact. We hosted 76 events across Alberta, the Northwest Territories, and Nunavut, welcoming over 6,300 attendees to workshops, roundtables, webinars, and community sessions. Complimentary events played a key role in sustaining access to learning and connection for our members. Our Annual Conference was a highlight, bringing together a sold-out audience, a fully booked exhibitor space, and earning strong satisfaction ratings with 77% of attendees rating their experience positively. Thoughtful planning is already underway for our 2026 Conference on June 2 and 3 at the BMO Centre in Calgary, where expanded attendee capacity, increased exhibitor space, and enhanced programming will elevate the experience for HR professionals across our jurisdiction. Through our marketing campaign, we focused on raising awareness of the strategic value a CPHR brings to organizations. The results speak for themselves with 10% of new members joined after seeing our campaign, and website traffic increased by 17%, averaging over 55,000 views per month. In 2025, CPHR Alberta navigated Ministry changes, new mandate letters, and changes to professional governance. The Professional Governance Act (PGA) was introduced in the Spring of 2025 and received royal assent in May. This was a long-awaited and important step forward. CPHR Alberta operations and the Board are at work reviewing the legislation and anticipating the incoming regulations. We have continued our focus in broader advocacy and engagement to promote the profession as a leading voice, valued partner and knowledge expert. Throughout the year, we deepened our existing relationships, built new ones, and partnered on impactful projects at various levels of government and with community partners. We look forward to continuing to highlight the significance and impact of the profession within our organizations and communities throughout 2026. Looking ahead, we are excited to implement our 2026–2028 Strategic Plan , continue rolling out our new member recognition program, and shine a spotlight on our incredible HR community at our Member Recognition Gala in April. We will also advance our work toward self-regulation, ensuring the HR profession is recognized and trusted for its impact on organizations and communities. I want to thank our incredible team at CPHR Alberta and the many volunteers who make our work possible. Your dedication ensures we deliver value to our members and advance the HR profession every day. Thank you also to our Board of Directors for their guidance and leadership throughout the year. As the holiday season approaches, I wish you joy, rest, and time to celebrate your accomplishments. Together, we are shaping the future of HR—and I look forward to all we will achieve in 2026. Ioana Giurca, CEO, CPHR Alberta
