Toxicity in the workplace - trigger warning… you might not be ready to hear this..

Author : Kirstey Jane - Human Behaviour & Relationship Strategist

I’m going to bet that the moment you read the title of this article, you either smirked or felt a pit in your stomach as you could instantly relate to a situation at work!  
 
That’s why you are here and still reading…maybe hoping for some empathy, wisdom or insight that might lessen the dread that you carry when you wake up each morning and think about your work day.  
 
So let’s get to the point.  If it’s ok with you I’d like to share openly and honestly about a few things that might just challenge and shift your thinking to get you to a place where you can get your power back.  My intention is always to try and leave you better than I found you.
 
If the words you are about to read seem provocative and make you feel uncomfortable, I invite you to ask yourself why that might be and just notice that you are having a reaction.  Is it what I’m saying?  Is it the language I am using? My tonality? Or is it your perceived beliefs about me, given how little you know?  Maybe what you are reading is reminding you of someone or something else in the past that has made you uncomfortable… Maybe it is mirroring something you don’t like about yourself….… 
 
I just ask that you simply notice.  Notice your own reaction.  No one is judging or critiquing you right now but just notice…how YOU judge, get irritated or don’t feel at peace.  Maybe you don’t want to read this anymore.  Notice why you want to read on…what are you seeking here?
 
I genuinely believe that in 99% of cases people started out life with good intentions.  The only reason they become dysfunctional is because of their circumstances and their unwillingness to see their part (and power) in those moments, that they can change at any given time.  
 
Every person wants to feel seen, heard, accepted, appreciated, loved and respected.  Even the a**holes.  That’s why the a**holes  are bitter and difficult!  They don’t know how to get these feelings through other people, let alone themselves. They feel constantly let down. 
 
Every person is reacting in every moment. We are receivers trying to tune into a frequency that makes us happy. If we can get control of how WE react, then it puts a stop to the toxic cycle.
 
Let’s look at the Merriam-Webster definition of ‘toxic’ as pertaining to people:  
 
‘Extremely harsh, malicious or harmful’
 
We can all understand and relate to this.  
 
However, here’s the thing.  
 
It is far too easy in today’s society to be upset, offended or triggered by something we experience and then assign total blame to the offending party.  We then rally others to agree with us and petition for a rule to control everyone ‘out there’. We would rather create division and separation instead of unity. We enable a victim culture instead of helping people become more of themselves so they can overcome their fears.  We don’t encourage them to seek to understand those who are stuck in their negative stories and behaviours. We refuse to bravely look in the mirror and notice how we are reacting …which in turn can now create another toxic cycle…
 
Toxic situations are comprised of two elements. An action and a reaction .
 
Which element are you partaking in?
 
You have to be part of one of these elements in order for you to be experiencing any toxicity at all. If you are not present to the situation or engaging in it, you will not experience it.  
 
Whenever you are upset by something, notice how you are always there!!
 
Some of you will be feeling defensive right now.  
“Are you saying this is MY fault???” “How can it be MY fault that THEY are behaving so badly and are being SO mean to me?” 
 
When you can admit which element of the situation you are engaging in, then you can take back control of THAT part and start to eliminate toxicity in your life anywhere, with any one.
 
A person can walk around being as mean as they can be, but if there is no one else to react to it then they are just a mean person walking around stuck in their own story.
 
People are always going to people.  A**holes will a**hole.  Idiots will idiot.  
There is NOTHING you can do about other people. Let them be.  
You have no control over any one but yourself.
 
Your power is in deciding how you will REACT to them.  When you change how you react, other people will change how they react to you.  
 
Action (them) ——— Reaction (yours) ———Reaction (theirs)
 
This is human nature.  If your reaction is emotional and unstable, you can bet their reaction will be more emotional and unstable.
 
If you can’t envisage this at work, imagine your interactions with your family, partner or children.  It’s all the same.  It’s human nature.
 
Taking accountability for ourselves is one of the hardest and scariest things to do.  It also gives us the most power.  

Author Bio

Kirstey Jane is a creative professional with a passion for people!
 
Her experience is vast.  She has a 17 year career span in Learning & Development and Recruitment Management in the UK and Canada working with rapid growth start ups and legacy corporations alike.
 
She founded SuperCorporatePeople, a professional photography business 21 years ago and now writes, speaks and runs workshops on relationships and communication in the workplace and at home, through KirsteyJane.com

If you would like to learn more about how to do this and learn 3 simple, but very powerful tools to transform your relationships, then please sign up the free workshop I will be running on July 11th 2024, details can be found here.


The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.

 
 

The views and opinions expressed in this blog post belong solely to the original author(s) and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of CPHR Alberta.



By Jessica Jaithoo • October 23, 2026
Why frontline leadership matters more than ever As organizations across Alberta navigate economic uncertainty, workforce pressures, and rapid technological change, one question continues to surface: what separates organizations that thrive from those that struggle to adapt? At Great Place To Work®, their research points to a consistent answer: leadership. Not just executive leadership, but leadership at every level of the organization. While senior leaders set vision and direction, frontline leaders shape the day-to-day employee experience that determines whether people trust, engage, innovate, and embrace change. In many ways, the future of work will be defined not by technology, but by the quality of leadership that guides people through it. Alison Grenier, Head of Culture and Research for Great Place to Work, has been studying the Best Workplaces in Canada for the past 15 years. She sat down with CPHR Alberta to discuss the importance of frontline leaders in shaping workplace culture. “In many ways, the future of work will be defined not by technology, but by the quality of leadership that guides people through it.” Alison Grenier, Head of Culture and Research, Great Place To Work Canada Q: Why is leadership such an important topic right now? Because organizations are operating in an environment of constant change. Employees are being asked to adapt to new business priorities, new ways of working, and increasingly, new technologies. In times like these, people look to their leaders for clarity, support, and confidence. Strong leadership helps employees navigate uncertainty and stay focused on what matters most. Q: What connection do you see between leadership and workplace culture? Culture is often thought of as something abstract, but employees experience culture through everyday interactions with their leaders. How leaders communicate, listen, recognize effort, involve people in decisions, and demonstrate care all shape the employee experience. Over time, those experiences become culture. Q: Why are frontline leaders especially important? Frontline leaders are the people employees interact with most frequently. They sit at the intersection of organizational strategy and everyday work. They explain change, answer questions, remove barriers, coach employees, and reinforce purpose. Research consistently shows that employees are more likely to stay, contribute ideas, and give extra effort when they feel supported by their direct leader. Yet frontline managers are often the most overlooked group when it comes to development and support. Q: What challenges are frontline employees facing today? Frontline employees continue to experience significant pressure. Research points to high levels of burnout, concerns about workload, staffing shortages, and a desire for greater flexibility and support. Many also report feeling disconnected from decision-making and organizational priorities. Q: What do employees need most from leaders right now? They need leaders who listen, communicate clearly, and help them understand how their work contributes to a larger purpose. Employees want transparency when circumstances change. They want to feel heard when they raise concerns. They want recognition when they make extra effort. Most importantly, they want leaders who genuinely care about their success and well-being. These may sound like simple behaviours, but they have a profound impact on trust, engagement, and retention. Q: How does artificial intelligence fit into this conversation? AI is one of the most significant workplace changes many organizations have faced in years, but successful AI adoption is less about technology and more about leadership. Organizations that treat AI as a technology project will struggle, while those that treat AI as a people and leadership opportunity are more likely to succeed. Even employees who may never use AI directly in their roles will likely be affected by changes in workflows, processes, customer expectations, or business operations. When employees feel excluded from conversations about the future, uncertainty tends to grow. Bringing everyone into the discussion helps build understanding, trust, and readiness for change. Q: What enables organizations to adapt more effectively to change? Trust. Our research consistently finds that employees in high-trust workplaces are more willing to adapt, learn, collaborate, and embrace change. When trust is strong, employees are more likely to assume positive intent, contribute ideas, and support organizational priorities. Q: What role can HR professionals play in strengthening leadership? HR professionals play a critical role by helping leaders translate organizational goals into meaningful employee experiences. That includes providing leaders with the tools, skills, and insights they need to communicate effectively, listen actively, recognize contributions, and build trust. The goal is not for HR to "own" culture, but to enable leaders to create the conditions where great culture can thrive. Q: What message would you leave with Alberta leaders? Never underestimate the impact you have on the people around you. As organizations prepare for the future of work, leadership remains one of the most powerful competitive advantages available. Leadership has always mattered. In an era of constant change, it matters more than ever.
By Jessica Jaithoo • October 19, 2026
Author: Taia Northrup , 2026 Social Media Committee Volunteer Halloween is the season for haunted houses and stories that send shivers down our spines. But for HR professionals, some of the scariest situations don’t involve ghosts or goblins. They happen right within the workplace. Behind every employee experience is a workplace culture shaped by communication, leadership, expectations, and trust. Research suggests that factors such as unclear roles, unmanaged workplace stress, and limited opportunities for employees to speak up can have meaningful consequences for both employees and organizations (Hassan, 2013; Government of Canada, 2016; CIPD, 2024) This Halloween, let’s shine a light on the spooky side of HR: the workplace realities we do not always talk about. 1. The ghost of communication past Poor communication can haunt an organization long after a message is missed. Important updates get lost; expectations are assumed rather than explained, and employees are left piecing information together on their own. This results in confusion, frustration, duplicated work, and a growing lack of trust. The reality is that communication isn’t just about sending a message. It’s about making sure the right people receive it, understand it, and know what to do with it. Two-way communication also gives employees a way to raise concerns and contribute ideas, helping organizations better understand the experiences of their workforce (CIPD, 2024) 2. The never-ending zombie job description Responsibilities keep growing. Projects are added. Employees become unofficial go-to person for tasks that don’t seem to belong to anyone else. Unclear roles and responsibilities can leave employees overwhelmed, leaders frustrated, and teams working in silos. Research by Hassan (2013), examining 1,699 employees across 45 government agency office, found that great role clarity was associated with higher job satisfaction and lower turnover rates. When accountability is missing, tasks fall through the cracks, or multiple people unknowingly do the same work. Employees need clarity about their roles, decision-making authority, priorities, and how their work connects to the bigger picture. The Government of Canada also identifies clearly defined duties and responsibilities as one of the practices that supports psychological health in the workplace (Government of Canada, 2016). A job description shouldn’t be a document that comes back to life once a year for performance reviews. Expectations should evolve alongside the role. 3. The turnover vampire One employee leaves. Then another. Before long, the team is spending more time recruiting, onboarding, and training than getting work done. High turnover can drain an organization of institutional knowledge, team stability, and employee morale. And when remaining employees absorb the workload, burnout can quickly follow. But here’s the frightening part: turnover is often treated as a recruitment problem when the underlying causes may have little to do with recruitment. Employees may be leaving because of poor leadership, limited development opportunities, unmanageable workloads, lack of recognition, or a lack of clarity about what is expected of them. Research on role clarification has also identified a relationship between clearer roles, job satisfaction, and lower turnover (Hassan, 2013). 4. The haunted house of unspoken expectations Employees are expected to know what success looks like. Managers assume their teams understand the priorities. Performance reviews arrive, and suddenly, everyone discovers they’re not on the same page. When expectations aren’t clearly communicated, employees may feel blindsided by feedback, while managers become frustrated that work isn’t being completed as expected. The problem isn’t always a lack of effort. Sometimes, it's a lack of clarity. Clear expectations need to be established early and revisited often. Regular check-ins, meaningful feedback, and conversations about priorities can help prevent misunderstandings before they become performance concerns. Role clarity is also associated with greater work satisfaction, reinforcing the value of ensuring employees understand what their roles require (Hassan, 2013). 5. The burnout cauldron The team is short-staffed. Deadlines aren’t moving. Everyone is doing their best to keep things running, and taking a break feels impossible. Overtime, extra responsibilities become the norm, workloads keep increasing, and exhaustion is mistaken for dedication. Burnout rarely appears overnight. It can build gradually as employees operate in survival mode for weeks or months. The World Health Organization describes burnout as an occupational phenomenon resulting from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed (WHO, 2019) Organizations need to look beyond individual coping strategies and examine the workplace conditions contributing to exhaustion. Managing workloads, supporting employee participation, and defining responsibilities are among the practices recommended by the Governent of Canada for psychologically healthy workplaces (Government of Canada, 2016) Sustainable performance requires realistic expectations, supportive leadership, and the ability to raise concerns without fear. 6. The employee engagement masquerade The survey results look good. The engagement event was a success. Everyone smiled at the team photo. But behind the scenes, employees may feel disconnected, unheard, or reluctant to speak honestly about their experiences. Social events and recognition programs can contribute to a positive employee experience. However, they cannot replace trust, fir treatment, meaningful work, and leaders who listen and follow through. Asking employees feedback, listening without becoming defensive, and communicating what happens next. When people see that their input leads to meaningful action, engagement becomes more than a survey. Research highlighted by the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD, 2024) suggests that employee voice can strengthen the long term benefits of effective management practices. Bringing the shadows into the light The most challenging workplace issues aren’t always dramatic. Often, they’re the small, recurring problems that go unaddressed until they become much harder to ignore. A missed conversation, an unclear responsibility, another resignation, a team that has stopped speaking up. These are reminders that a healthy workplace doesn’t happen by accident. It takes intentional communication, clear expectations, supportive leadership, and a willingness to address uncomfortable issues before they grow. This Halloween, let’s look beyond the policies and processes and pay attention to the everyday experiences shaping our workplaces.
October 9, 2026
The Board of Directors continues to provide oversight of CPHR Alberta’s 2026 – 2028 Strategic Plan. At its September meeting, the Board reviewed progress across the organization’s three strategic priorities and its continued focus on strong governance and financial stewardship. Influence and Visibility of the HR Profession CPHR Alberta continues to elevate the visibility and credibility of the CPHR designation with employers, policymakers, academic institutions and the broader business community. The Board remains focused on advancing recognition of the CPHR designation as the benchmark for excellence in HR and strengthening the position of CPHRs as trusted professionals and organizational leaders. Future-Ready HR Community CPHR Alberta continues to invest in programming that prepares members for the evolving world of work, with a focus on relevant and future-focused professional development, including emerging areas such as AI, HR law and executive leadership development. The 2026 Annual Conference continued to strengthen its position as a key gathering for Alberta’s HR community. One-third of attendees were at the executive level and nearly half attended for the first time, demonstrating both strong senior-level engagement and the ability to reach new audiences. The Board continues to support investment in learning, leadership development and connection that helps build a strong, future-ready HR community. Member Engagement and Community Connection Membership continues to grow, reaching 7,266 active members as of June 30, 2026, a 5% increase year over year . CPHR Alberta welcomed 407 new members year-to-date, with growth across most membership categories and regions. The Board is encouraged by this continued growth and remains focused on strengthening member engagement, connection and belonging across CPHR Alberta’s jurisdiction. Financial Position and Governance Planning CPHR Alberta continues to maintain a strong financial position and remains aligned with its full-year breakeven objective. The Board continues to monitor emerging economic risks, supported by regular forecasting and appropriate reserves. The Board also continues to strengthen governance, succession planning and Board effectiveness to ensure CPHR Alberta is well positioned to deliver on its strategic priorities. Looking Ahead The Board remains focused on effective oversight of the 2026 – 2028 Strategic Plan and ensuring CPHR Alberta is positioned to deliver meaningful and sustainable value to members. Progress in strengthening the visibility of the profession, preparing the HR community for the future, growing and engaging membership, and maintaining strong organizational stewardship provides a solid foundation for the work ahead. The next Board meeting takes place in November 2026, after which we will again share our key messages. If you have any questions regarding these key messages or the Board of Directors, please contact chair@cphrab.ca . We welcome your feedback!
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